The appearance on TV of the Salvatore brothers has tipped a precarious balance to the point of no return. It’s official: the only hot, inspiring, sensitive men to dream-date are vampires. Sad state of affairs, isn’t it?
I’ve held back as long as I can from conceding that these creatures—the archetypes of our own inner addictions and dark side—are actually the only fascinating male characters on TV. I’ve capitulated, becoming one of those screaming fans who go wild when the beautiful and sensitive Damon and Stephan come on screen. Unlike Robert Pattison’s fans, who exercise no restraint in the movie theatres, I, in the privacy of my living room, get to preserve my respectability when the objects of my desire begin showing what there are made of. There’s nothing like the high of watching vulnerable, emotionally complex men on my own TV from my very own couch.
Yes, that’s the best part of it. This is as good as television gets for women. In days gone by, we had to go to the movie theatre, or reserve our moment of abandon for a special outing, to see those characters who capture our dreams and take us on a ride to fantasyland. Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp, Paul Newman could only trigger our innermost desires on the public screen, or on TV so much later as to ruin the effect. Now we can turn on the lust and fall in love with the vampire male species as often as every week, more if you follow the many vampire sagas currently offered on TV.
Why are women so crazy in love with the new representation of masculinity in vampire chronicles?
· Women love multilayered, intellectual connections. Vampires understand history and seem to have a good handle on the evolution of the world. Being immortal and maintaining the age when they were turned, vampires have witnessed the world for centuries.
· Unlike human men, vampires have done a 180-degree turn and embraced their other side. They have developed from one-dimensional creatures of the night to well-rounded, educated, well-spoken members of society who can, in some cases, also live their lives during the day.
· From Bill to Eric to Edward to Stephan and Damon, they represent many characters. Instead of the same-old Matthew McConaughey or George Clooney stereotype of the macho-yet-soft or distant male with the buff body or I-look-great-in-a-suit persona, vampires portray, physically and intellectually, a much broader range of possibilities.
· They have morphed from being creepy creatures of no substantial physical appearance, anemic and emaciated like Count Dracula, to being fully present in their bodies, conscientious about workout routines and proper eating habits, intentional about their diet of choice.
· Nothing compares to sex with a vampire, so says the storyline of True Blood, to offering your blood and receiving theirs in a moment of extreme need. Nothing compares to the carnal experience of the aphrodisiac of V-juice, to the stamina it gives both women and men.
· Vampires seem to be monogamous and loyal to their partners for eternity. If they are not, then they are able to charm you into forgetting all the nasty things they have done to you. Who wouldn’t wish that her ex had been like that and liberated her from years of wanting revenge after finding out that he had had nineteen affairs while being married to her for only four years?
· Last but not least, what women love most about being loved by a vampire is that vampires don’t fear their lover’s mortality. In fact, they envy it and are fascinated by their partner’s aging process. Isn’t that just closing the deal?
Women, hold onto your good, old-time principles. Human men, wake up! All that women want are multilayered and monogamous partners. Give us your blood, metaphorically, and be big enough to receive ours. Be intentional in your choices and embrace the fact of human aging, in yourself and others.
A few short decades ago, these qualities constituted the bottom line. Nowadays, they seem to be simply … out of this world! Don’t let these good principles go to waste. Let’s draw some conclusions for everyone’s dating life.
Bloody Good Dating Tips 4 Women & Men
· Be multilayered and continue to grow.
· Challenge your comfort zone. Stretch to new dimensions.
· Look after your intellect and body (in that order).
· Be present and intentional in what you do and what you put into your body.
· Be available to your partner emotionally and physically.
· Embrace monogamy.
· Embrace the humanness of aging and shift into different stages of life with flow.
Until Next Time,
Author of 30 DAYS TO A NEW YOU: Get What You Want Through Authentic Change