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Beware The Toxic Partner

If you are like most people, you will choose your partner because you expect him or her to be fun to be with, reliable, and trustworthy. As well, you will want your want to feel a closeness with your partner, with the certainty that he or she really cares about you.

However, with the best of intentions, you may end up with a partner who rather than building you up, drains your energy. This type of person is, what I call, the Needy Toxic Person. With such a person, you might hope that if you meet your partner’s needs, and keep him or her happy, he or she will want to be with you in a long-term relationship. However, with such a person, you may end up getting used, as opposed to getting filled up and building the loving relationship you want to have.

The Needy Toxic Person has a bottomless number of needs. They have problems with their boss, their coworkers, their parents, their health, and are generally worked up about some aspect of their life most of the time. They get easily worked up, frustrated or irritated with aspects of their life, and they look for a comforting friend to listen to them and offer helpful advice.

Such a person will value you and want to partner up with you if you are kind and nurturing. If you are a good listener, they will begin to turn to you for comfort and support. This may be positive in terms of looking at a longer term relationship. However, the issue is, Is this relationship good for you in the long term?

The Needy Toxic Person is a user, and will exploit your for your kindness and support. But what tends to happen is that while such a person is good at taking, they don’t usually want to give back. And so what often happens, for example, is that you may be talking on the phone, listening to your partner, and offering helpful suggestions. But then, when it comes time for them to show an interest in you, and listen to you, they will say something like, “I’ve got to go now. But it was great talking to you!”

Ultimately, not very satisfying. There is usually the hope with such a partner that they will start valuing you, and in time, start giving back to you. However, outside of the fact that they will value your company because of the caring you offer, they will not be interested in your well-being. They will be interested in you to the extent that you meet their needs and make them happy. But should you start asking for equal time or expect your partner to provide support to you, such a partner may choose to move on, stating that the love is gone.

In the end, such a person will be a waste of your time. Although you will have fun in the beginning, such a person is not reliable, and will usually move on when you start speaking up or wanting more for yourself.

How can you avoid getting involved with a Needy Toxic Partner? You need to start valuing yourself. You are worthy of having a partner who is for you, who builds you up, who cares about how you feel and your happiness. You deserve a partner who wants a win/win relationship.

If you have a tendency to accept less than what you really want, you need to focus on building your own self-confidence. Your partner will treat you according to how you feel about yourself. This means, if you want your partner to truly value you, you need to work on valuing yourself.

How to do this? By learning to become proud to be you, and recognizing the wonderful person you are. If you want to improve the quality of your romantic relationships, and find a partner who cares about you, I recommend that you read my new book, Transform Your Life Now by Andrea J. Moses. You can learn more about this book on www.getyourlifeunstuck.com. What you will discover by reading this book will change your ability to be strong and self-confident. From a place of self-pride, you will be able to create a loving relationship with a partner who truly cares about you.

Until Next Time,

Andrea J. Moses, M.S.W.
Relationship Coach
www.getyourlifeunstuck.com

Transform Your Romance Into A Lasting Relationship

It’s great when you meet a person where the chemistry is great and the sparks fly. The challenge becomes, How can you keep this person in your life? For the problem is that a great sexual attraction doesn’t always turn into the lasting relationship you might want it to be. Over time, be it weeks or months, your partner might lose interest in you even when you are trying your best to keep the romance going.

So what can you do to truly move your relationship forward into one which will last?

1. Remain Confident In Yourself

Your partner will be attracted to you because he or she finds you attractive, special, and fun to be with. When you initially meet, they will be so intrigued with you, they will want to know everything about you. This will cause you to feel important and special. The intensity of the first weeks and months is truly intoxicating. It is only natural to expect that this wonderful intensity will last.

This is not realistic. What you need to understand here is that when the initial intensity reduces, it doesn’t mean that your partner has lost interest in you – only that other aspects of their life which they have put on hold need attention. If you misinterpret what is happening, you may mistakenly believe your partner has lost interest. In suddenly feel desperate at the thought of losing your partner, you may become needy, clingy, or too demanding.

Being strongly emotional in this way can destroy the relationship because you now will have changed from a relaxed, fun-to-be-with confident person into somewhat of a problem. Instead of being the person that your partner goes to for fun, you will become a problem that they will want to avoid. This will translate into your relationship being suddenly ended.

How to avoid this very common challenge? Remain confident in yourself. Understand that for a relationship to transform from an intense romance to a lasting, solid relationship, you will be a part of your partner’s life but not 100% of it. Your partner will want to have a balanced life with focus on career, family, health and fitness, personal life goals. You should want the same for yourself as well.

And so, when your partner wants to focus on other aspects of their life, stay confident in the fact that they still find you special and value your company. They simply have other aspects of their life that are important as well. If you hold onto your own belief in yourself, you will be able to avoid putting too much pressure on your partner causing an early termination of your relationship. Rather, you will remain an important person in your partner’s life. As such, they will want to keep you in their life.

2. Be Interested In Your Partner’s Life Goals

To create a relationship which lasts, you need to be seen as a valuable addition to your partner’s life.
This means that you need to be interested in aspects of your partner’s life which are independent of your relationship – career, health and fitness, family, and personal goals.

Intense romantic relationships are fun in the short term. But like a wonderful vacation, at some point, you need to come back to real life. To create a relationship which lasts, you need to become the person your partner wants to come home to. This means that you must be the person your partner wants to talk to about aspects of their lives which are important to them and which might not be going as well as they would like. You must be the person who will listen, be empathic, and offer helpful advice. If you do so, you will become indispensible in your partner’s life.

3. Build Your Own Self-Confidence

Creating a lasting relationship requires self-confidence and the capacity to be a true support to your partner. This is certainly easier said than done when you lack confidence in yourself. The tendency to become needy or demanding is only human when you fear that you are losing the love of a partner who has provided you with so much fun and support.

How can you build your own self-confidence? By building up your own self-esteem and self-worth. If you are like a great many people, you will secretly believe that you aren’t good enough. You will believe this because of events which will have happened earlier in your life which will have caused you to doubt your own worth. What you must discover is that you have everything you need to become self-confident, and to enjoy a lasting, loving relationship, along with all good things in your life.

To build up your self-confidence and come to know how wonderful you truly are, an excellent resource is the book, Transform Your Life Now by Andrea J. Moses. You can learn more about it on www.getyourlifeunstuck.com.

The bottom line is this: You deserve to have love and happiness in your life. But what you must understand is that only you can make this happen. To transform your romance into a lasting relationship, you must develop the confidence to become the person whom your partner wants to come home to. If you are having difficulty transforming your romances into a lasting relationship, developing your own self-confidence will be the key to your success.

Until Next Time,

Andrea J. Moses, M.S.W.
Relationship Coach
www.getyourlifeunstuck.com

Great Questions To Ask Yourself

As a coach, I often ask certain questions which help my clients figure out what they deeply want in life and the best way to get it. Below are a few of the questions I often ask. I’m sharing them with you so that you could ask yourself these questions. I have seen people answer these questions and dramatically improve their lives.

1. What effect do you want to have on the world? Your existence is going to have an effect on the world so it’s important to think about what effect you want that to be. Do you want to create a beautiful family, cure a disease, or help others in need? If your answers are unclear, I recommend you ask yourself this question every day until your answers become clearer.

2. Why are you spending your time worrying? Worrying is essentially fear and anxiety about a hypothetical event. This event may or may not happen and you have little, if any, control over the result. Worrying about hypothetical events ruins your happiness and distracts you from doing what is truly in your best interest. To stop worrying, I encourage you to instead think about what you are grateful for and do not stop until you are no longer worried.

3. Is that really going to keep you safe? The short answer is that life is unpredictable so you never can really keep yourself safe. The best way to cope with this fact is to develop the courage to go for what you truly want while having the faith that you will be able to do whatever you need to do when the time arises.

4. Are your thoughts helping you or hurting you? Your level of happiness at any given moment is determined by your thoughts. If you create a miserable story you will suffer in pain. If you create a positive story which focuses on gratitude you will feel joy. I start every morning by telling myself that today I will choose joy, balance and peace. I suggest you always choose the thoughts that will help you live the life you want.

I hope that after you ask yourself these questions, you’ve learned a little more about yourself. I’d love to hear how asking yourself questions affects you so feel free to send me an email or comment on my blog.

Until Next Time,

Dateologist Tracey L. Steinberg, Esq.
Life Coach and Dating Expert
www.TraceySteinberg.com

Bringing Romance Back

Anyone who wants to be romantic can be. Being romantic is really just the act of expressing your affection for your Someone Special in a way that they’ll appreciate. When it is sincere, it is a truly beautiful gift.

If you don’t have a lot of time or if you aren’t very familiar with your Someone Special, I recommend candles, background music, flowers, chocolates, and/or a beautiful card in which you express your affection and appreciation for them. The reason these traditions have lasted throughout the generations is because people have always appreciated these types of romantic gestures.

If you really want to romance your Special Someone, I recommend that you spend some time thinking about what really gets your Someone Special excited and what makes their eyes light up. Everyone has a different definition of what they find romantic. The best way to show someone how special they are to you is by demonstrating that you know, better than anyone else in the world, what makes them unique. Perhaps they have a favorite chocolate dessert or they love watching their favorite team play. Choosing to do something that makes them uniquely happy will be more meaningful to them and will be much more romantic.

Until Next Time,

Dateologist Tracey L. Steinberg, Esq.
Life Coach and Dating Expert
www.TraceySteinberg.com

How To Really Look Good At The Beach

Now that beach season in full swing, you may have had a few, “is this really how my body looks?” thoughts. Next time you are tempted to think negatively about your body parts, I recommend that you instead focus on what your body is capable of. Worship your legs for enabling you to catch the train, adore your arms for enabling you to carry heavy packages, and celebrate your smile for revealing the joy in your heart.

By consistently focusing on your gratitude for your body, you’ll grow to appreciate your body more and feel more confident about yourself. Feeling gratitude for your body will not only help you feel better about your appearance and yourself in general but it is also very attractive to the sexy strangers you see on the beach. My male and female clients both consistently tell me that the most attractive trait in the opposite gender is confidence. By focusing on what you appreciate about your body, you will not only feel better about yourself but you’ll also be more attractive to sexy strangers as well!

Until Next Time,

Dateologist Tracey L. Steinberg, Esq.
Life Coach and Dating Expert
www.TraceySteinberg.com